IS THAT REALLY ME? LOOKING AT LOVE FROM A MIRROR

Facing the truth about something and yet keeping your “sunny side up” is a juggling act that is well worth the learning. I can’t say I have gotten there yet but I am working on it. For example, next month I have a birthday coming up. I love birthdays, don’t get me wrong and I appreciate the fact that I am still around on planet earth to celebrate another one. I am thankful for that because I still have a lot of living to do. I don’t mean just breathing in and out but gathering as many more people into my heart and life as I can; going places; doing things; having new experiences – in other words, not just watching the “cruise ship” leave the harbor but be on it. 

On the other hand, I look at my skin and my face and I see a woman past her physical prime. I used to turn heads when I was younger. Wolf whistles were not uncommon. I saw the appreciation in the eyes of men who looked my way. I grew up being taught that a woman is nothing if she doesn’t look good and draw the admiring eyes of the opposite sex. That is so ingrained in me (my human side) that letting go of being attractive in that sense calls for me to look at myself differently and to be satisfied with that. It is a time for me to remind myself that I have a beauty within that surpasses any physical beauty I could ever have had. But more importantly it is time I dropped this unimportant and ridiculous belief I have because it dampens my enjoyment of life a bit more than it should. Some women never have this particular problem I seem to have but trust me, there is something else they are in need of dumping. I don’t mean to leave men out. They have there own set of ideals as men.

As I age i find that there are a lot of physical, emotional, and idealistic clutter in my life. The more I let go of these, the better off I am. There should be some sort of ritual that one can go through that celebrates the shedding of things that belong to past chapters of one’s life and celebrates the different but good that is yet to come. I think I will get to work on that.

DEFINING ABSOLUTE LOVE

How can I define that which carries so many angles, thoughts, memories, ideas, experiences?  The answer is I cannot; however, I can talk about love from many different perspectives and from my own experience of it so far.  I can write about how it affects people, the power of it, the shapes, colors, sizes, and all the packages it come in.   I can write and transmit in many ways about its importance in the pleasure of life and of living a full and complete existence as a human being during this your lifetime.

So follow me.  Follow my blog and take my hand and let us see where this will go just for the fun of it.  You are welcome to bring your own thoughts, ideas, and opinions with you.  They are part of you and I can love you and all your parts without trying to make you into being another me.  I don’t want you to be another me.  You have a life of your own, an individual path that is distinctly yours and I honor that.  I only ask the same of you.  Let us explore together and share the love that makes us who we are.

Brenda Osgood Andradzki Elliott, MSW